As I am beginning my book on domestic violence, I look back. So many signs that I Ignored. I accepted a lot of bad treatment that I never deserved. I was worth so much more than what his actions showed me. I deserved so much more than he gave.
We all desire love. We need to search for true love and not try to force it where there is none. If you find yourself interested in someone, ask yourself why? Who do you find yourself attracted to this person? How do they treat you? What kind of life do they live? Who are they when you are not around? How do they treat others?
Abusers like to make you prove your love. What they do not tell you is, you never will. You will never do enough for an abuser to prove your love. You shouldn’t have to. Never should you have to do things that degrade you or embarrass you to prove your worth to them. Abuse comes in physical as well as mental form. They manipulate you into doing what they want. If you do not do as they say then they accuse you of not caring or loving them. You never can do enough for them. The problem lies in them and not you.
If you find yourself a victim, know you are not alone. Some of us understand and also know you are strong enough to get out. You can! Reach out to friends and family. Find places that offer resources. Do not believe your abuser who makes you feel a lone. Find other survivors to help give you emotional support. Sometimes having someone to just listening can be very empowering. Surviving: https://youtu.be/UTRWqvlTf5A